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This is more fun than a LinkedIn profile.

I’ve been in the corporate world for so long that I was tempted to open my LinkedIn profile page as a reference. I’m not fond of having my photo taken so here’s one of puppies.

Honestly, this may be the most difficult piece to write. There’s so much to tell, but nothing at the same time. There’s always that risk of sounding incredibly boring or self-centered. Neither one is pleasing.

But f*ck it. Let’s just write.

I live by that f*ck it attitude. It’s done more good than bad for me. I had a friend tell me she…


Beginning steps to becoming the best version of yourself.

Most of us were brought up with rules that define a successful life. We were expected to study hard, get good jobs, have a family, travel the world, have large groups of friends and be financially stable.

While those are admirable and attainable goals, there is more to life than just climbing the corporate ladder and people-pleasing.

In the hustle and bustle of life, we forget to focus on the one person who truly matters — ourselves. …


The road to healing trauma can be a long one.

I was in a situation where my mind and soul were not my own. I remember the sleepless nights where all I felt were regret, depression, and sadness.

Healing does not happen overnight. The more upsetting the trauma, the longer it takes to heal that emotional wound. Your trauma could have been from losing a loved one. It could have been from an abusive relationship.

You are not alone. Trauma is a universal experience, and everyone has something that needs healing.

Acknowledgment and ownership of the trauma are hard pills to swallow. Especially if you pride yourself on being a…


Each for a specific reason.

There’s a saying that everyone will fall in love with three different people, during three stages of life, and therefore experience three different loves.

I’ve heard that saying many times but never paid much attention to it.

Until I experienced those three loves for myself.

You may have fallen in love over three times. But more often than not, there will be three relationships that stand out from the rest. It will be the three that had the most impact on your life, the ones to shape who you are today.

These are the three defining loves in your lifetime.

First Love.


A local’s perspective of the vibrant city.

Growing up, I was never truly fond of Kuala Lumpur (KL) much less Malaysia. I always thought it to be too crowded, humid, and polluted. As I got older, it was still too crowded, humid, and polluted, but I also noticed the sprightly ways of the city and grew to appreciate it a little more.

While I dreamt of traveling the world when I grew up, I never once thought I’d make the life-changing decision to leave my home country for another. …


The art of empowerment.

Society has conditioned us to act a certain way; to believe in certain things; to care about everything.

We’re guilted into caring about issues we really don’t give a flying F about. The moment someone acts differently, we’re labeled with tags like bitch, rude, arrogant, snobbish, or unemotional.

As a result, we lose focus on what truly matters — being happy with yourself.

Be honest — do you really care about political arguments? Do the news tug at your heartstrings that you feel compelled to listen to everyone’s talk about it for the rest of the week? …


Dealing with stagnancy in life.

In a time where we are forced to live our lives in confined spaces; where you have to work, play, and shop from home, it can be easy to feel like life has hit a standstill and there is stagnant air around you.

It can be easy to lose sight of your goals and the sense of achievement we as humans are so driven to have.

Being stagnant feels like you’re not in the mood to do anything. It means you turn to sleep, mindless TV, or games for comfort. You’re overwhelmed with the feeling…


Are the arguments worth it?

Once upon a time, my Facebook timeline was filled with posts from acquaintances on what they had for breakfast and their vacation pictures — something I didn’t much care for.

Now all I have on my timeline are recipe videos and meme posts, along with selected updates from my closest friends. It serves as an escape and an avenue for inspiration.

I’ve built a habit of skimming through content like it’s a dating app. Keep swiping until something catches my eye. …


Far from an exhaustive list.

I am getting married in a week. It is at this time that my brain decides to reminisce on the three decades I’ve been lucky to live through and the life choices I’ve made.

There is a small part of me that wonders what if. What if I studied abroad, would I have met my soon-to-be-husband then? What if I played it safe, would I have learned that much about myself?

For the most part, I can’t say I have many regrets. I feel blessed to have a good, sometimes unstable head on my shoulders, and I consider myself extremely…


You’re not behind everyone else.

I was just about to laze on the couch when the phone rang and my dad’s name popped on the screen, which was unusual. I thought it may be something important, so I answered without noticing it was a video call.

Imagine my surprise when a group of familiar faces appeared on the screen. It dawned on me…

My dad tricked me into a video call with my relatives.

Immediately, questions about my appearance and life started flowing. “What is that bump on your face?” It was a pimple. “Oh, I can see your double…

Jill zl

Lover of the written word and the chaotic weirdness around her. Usually funny. Get in touch: jill_afterdark@yahoo.com / Website: www.jillafterdark.com

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